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Adoptive Families

Adoptive Families come in all shapes, sizes, colors, & compositions!  Adoptive Parents must be equipped to parent according to their adopted child's individual needs and in the context of their particular family.  Many adopted children share similar struggles with issues like:

  • Identity & Sense of Self

  • Need for Control

  • Ambiguous Grief & Loss

  • Abandonment & Rejection 

  • Family Loyalty Binds

  • Birthday Ambivalence

  • Need for Belonging

  • Decision Making Difficulties

  • Friends & Relationships

Transracial & International Adoptees have additionally complex issues to face like culture loss and racial identity confusion. 

Children Adopted from Foster Care have to cope with added issues like multiple breaks in attachment and need to heal before bonding with new caregivers. This may include recovery from or difficulties with:

  • Domestic Violence

  • Sexual Abuse

  • Extreme Neglect

  • Parental Mental Illness

  • Parental Drug Addiction

  • Fetal Alcohol Syndrome

  • Developmental Delays

  • Sensory Issues

Other complexities  in the Adoptive Home may complicate the healing process such as: 

  • Foster Care of other children 

  • Adoptive Siblings 

  • Single Adoptive Parent

  • LGBTQ Adoptive Parents

  • Death of Adoptive Parent (or Sibling)

  • Divorce of Adoptive Parents

Open Adoption Adoptees (those with some degree of access to Birth Families) must sometimes navigate very tricky family dynamics, similar to the complexity of family entanglements faced by Relative Kin Adoptees.

Closed Adoption Adoptees (those with closed records and no access to Birth Families or information) face great challenges in overcoming the shame of secrecy, piecing together their heritage and may have difficult decisions to make about search & reunion. These issues can extend to Second Generation Adoptees, too, (the children of Adoptees) also cut off from their roots.

Adoptees in Pre & Post Reunion can become completely overwhelmed by unexpected feelings that may surface personally or in their bio relative(s) and are subject to "secondary rejection" (rejection by a Birth Parent in reunion), which can be devastating.

Get Help & Get Savvy!

If you are in the Seattle-Tacoma or Yakima Valley areas,

available in-person services are listed below.

Just click on the colored buttons above each category for more info. 

If you live outside of Seattle or outside Washington state,

some services may still be available to you by phone or online.

Please contact us for more details. 

Individual Counseling

Parents/Kids Support Groups

Adoption Reunion Facilitation

Workshops, Retreats, & Public Speaking

Adoptive Parent Coaching

Savvy Resources for Adoptive Families 
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